Nigerian immigrant parents: Resilience

There is a saying, your story begins with those who came before you…

Africa Magic’s Riona: Tsato has low self esteem

Tsato is an insecure, entitled bully who met his downfall because his insecurities were so severe that they prevented him from minding his own business, even though doing so would have cost him nothing at all.

Has the pandemic made you question your career choices too?

The amount of time work takes from you is wildly downplayed. Nine to five may only be eight hours, but when you add the hours that you lose while commuting and preparing for work, that easily turns what should be a 40-hour work week into a 55 hour one…

Children of Blood and Bone by Tomi Adeyemi: My Review

The author didn’t tell a story with Yoruba characters in a Yoruba land, and she didn’t do the work to create a completely fictional universe either. Instead, she leaned very heavily on the otherness of her Nigerian heritage, believing that it would be enough to satisfy her target audience because it was unfamiliar to them. She pulled it off because she was right about her audience…

On Binary thinking and sociopolitical influences

“Binary thinking, also known as dichotomous thinking, happens when even complex concepts, ideas, and problems are overly simplified into being one side or another. The gray area in the middle is ignored or goes unnoticed.”

‘The One’ on Netflix: A conversation about love and choices

Real love is more complex than what the idea of ‘love at first sight’ or that of having ‘one soulmate’ would suggest. I believe these ideas are oversimplifications of love and relationships designed to stroke egos. It’s designed to tell you not to worry if someone can’t love your flaws, because there is someone out there who will love those flaws and THAT person is your soulmate.

The not-so-curious case of Sarah Everard

The problem is that these ‘lone wolves’ are everywhere. They are your work colleagues. They are your family members. They are your friends.  And as has been demonstrated with this case (and others), they even police our neighborhoods. Avoiding these ‘lone wolves’ while living a normal life at the same time is terrifyingly difficult.